Growing up, Mother\u2019s Day was one of my favorite days! I got to make my Mom feel as special as she made me feel! Dad and I would spend Saturday evening making a \u201cspecial\u201d cake! We were known for our creative colors! Let\u2019s just say they were interesting!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I was a married adult, it was a day of mixed emotions. My focus still remained on my Mom. I was never able to have my own child. That dream ended on a day I\u2019ve never, ever spoken of to anyone. It was heartbreaking to say the least. Maybe one day I will have the courage to write about it. Maybe. But that day isn\u2019t today!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Every May, Mom was my focus, that was until 2024. That was my first without her. Without the person who had made me who I am. I remember the tears. I remember the void I felt. I remember wishing for just one more I love you! One more creativity colored cake! That May was so very difficult!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today is the third Mother\u2019s Day without Mom. I still wish for all of those things. I still feel that void with every group text wishing the mothers in our groups a Happy Mother\u2019s Day. Each time I see those, it stings just a bit more.
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Surprisingly, I\u2019ve had zero tears today. My focus has shifted. I was telling someone this morning, who has recently lost her precious Mom, that it has helped me to shift my focus from what I don\u2019t have, to what I can do by making sure someone else has a great Mother\u2019s Day. I also mentioned that the gift of tears is OK, just don\u2019t stay there.
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I believe there is no sadness in heaven and I believe that our loved ones can see and hear us. So if I\u2019m sad and crying, Mom can\u2019t see\/hear me! I don\u2019t want that! I want her to see me and be proud of how I am living my life and following her example of service. I want her to see me smiling with each memory of those creatively colored cakes, all the bottles of Chanel No. 5 and the roses she always got from Daddy. I want her to be able to show her friends her only child and be proud of how I\u2019ve gotten my crap together since she\u2019s been gone. Is my crap always together? Absolutely not. I am human. I let the tears fall when they need to. The difference now is that I don\u2019t stay there!
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I guess I say all this to say, be mindful around these types of special days\u2026they may sting in ways you\u2019ve never experienced . Some of us have lost our Mom. Some of us don\u2019t have the child we had hoped for. Some of us are struggling to have that longed for child. Some of us have lost that longed for child. Be mindful of those around you. Some are just doing our best to make it through another day in the long list of days where we feel the void! So, if today is stinging you a bit today, you are not alone! I\u2019m praying we all make it through today with some sweet memories and peace in our hearts!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Peace to you and yours!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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