{"id":1760,"date":"2020-11-13T22:09:41","date_gmt":"2020-11-14T03:09:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/loveyoustrong.us\/?p=1760"},"modified":"2020-11-13T22:09:41","modified_gmt":"2020-11-14T03:09:41","slug":"givers-and-takers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/loveyoustrong.us\/index.php\/2020\/11\/13\/givers-and-takers\/","title":{"rendered":"GIVERS and TAKERS"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Sounds like such a simple thing &#8211; the nature of each is so simple \u2013 right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>GIVERS give and well <em>FRANKLY <\/em>\u2013 TAKERS take.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>hmmmmmm maybe it\u2019s not so simple, maybe it\u2019s wrapped up in simple complexity. &nbsp;Maybe some TAKERS want to give but don\u2019t know how. Maybe some GIVERS really want to be TAKERS instead. I don\u2019t know, just maybe\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All my life I have been a GIVER &#8211; shirt off my back, shoes off my feet, food from my table, roof over head, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, a celebratory friend, time, love, care, compassion, money \u2013 you name it, you need it, you got it. Many would call me a fool, other\u2019s say I live in a poverty mindset, yet others would call me a GIVER rich in the wonders of this world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well quite frankly, this world has made me rethink it all \u2013 yeah, another grappling of sorts. I am grappling with my \u201cGIVER-ness\u201d. Am I really a true GIVER? Is my heart the heart of a GIVER or have I been a TAKER all along &#8211; hidden in the shell of a GIVER? Disguised so that others couldn\u2019t see the real me? This world has me wondering if I have anything left to give? Do I really even want to?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Children cry for their needs \u2013 momma listen, momma I need money, momma I need, momma I need. Lovers cry for their needs \u2013 woman listen, woman I need you, woman I need, woman I need. Work cries for their needs \u2013 worker listen, worker I need more, worker I need, worker I need\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And it just goes on\u2026incessantly onnnnn&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Somedays I dream of being that TAKER\u2026you know the one who says \u201cI deserve that and I am going to have it!\u201d Somedays I dream of a relationship where I am waited on hand and foot, my every whim comes before I even think it, freely given. Somedays I wish I could just be a TAKER, a damn TAKER and take what I need without a second thought. Then reality creeps back in\u2026If I choose to be a TAKER, who will give? DAMN you mind, let me dream a little!!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes a GIVER feels tired, broken and worn, used and discarded, nothing more than a doormat. Maybe the true grappling is in the fact that GIVERS forget to self-care and ask for what they need. The truth is maybe we just don\u2019t feel we deserve it. Maybe the truth is that this world has us in isolation and we can\u2019t really truly be who we are meant to be\u2026a GIVER.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>GIVERS don\u2019t just give things; they pour out their souls and meet the needs of others in ways most don\u2019t understand. DAMN it\u2019s hard being isolated and not able to give \u2013 not able to give laughter, love, hugs, time, positive energy \u2013 the true unabashed giving of self in ways that also pour back into self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just once I thought I wanted to be a TAKER but maybe, just maybe I want to rest and not feel like pouring out until there is nothing left. Maybe I just want to be in a world were GIVERS are loved in return and know their value. Maybe just once as a GIVER I want to feel deeply that what I give matters \u2013 what I give changes and bends the light of the world so that the warmth is felt beyond this moment. Maybe I want to matter so deeply that another GIVER shares my world, who gets me and together we GIVE FREELY, and the world is never the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just maybe\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sounds like such a simple thing &#8211; the nature of each is so simple \u2013 right? 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