When the Cord Is Cut For You It Will Sting
I guess it was time…but it wasn’t my time. Let me explain. My church had become my family. I had leaned into my faith and that place so heavily in the last 17 months, that I couldn’t imagine my life without either…until last Tuesday evening.
Last night, I was supposed to begin another Bible study…a part of a ministry I helped to start at my church 3 years ago…only last night, I found out I was no longer a part of the group. Not only that group, but ALL of the groups I had belonged to and had so faithfully served. ALL. GONE.
At first I thought maybe it was a glitch in the system. Nope. My app was working fine. I had just been removed from everything I held dear by someone making an executive decision for me. Yes, I had removed myself from several ministries since we moved, but I had kept the 3 that I held most dear. WWP, EMHC, and Sacristan. Gone. Taken away.
To say I was surprised isn’t half of it. I was and still am hurt. My heart hurts. No one talked to me. I wasn’t given the choice. It was done to me…for me.
Oh, I’m sure whoever made that executive decision thought they were doing the right thing. I’m sure that because I have moved they thought I wouldn’t want to be connected to those groups I loved so well. Those groups that had been my lifeline for 17 months since Mom died. But, I’m 100% positive that they never once thought about the hurt they were about to cause.
I truly am surprised by the deep hurt I feel. It feels like I am grieving. The gutted feeling is back. The tears are back.
So, I guess it was time to cut that cord. I just wish I had been given the opportunity to be the cutter in my own time. I truly hope that place that I have loved so well for so long, doesn’t do this to anyone else. It’s not the Catholic way. It’s hurtful. It’s cold. It’s not kind.
I say all of this to say, before you make an executive decision for someone else,: talk to them. Understand them and their reasoning behind what they are doing. Above all else, BE KIND! You have no idea what someone has been or is going through.
BE FLIPPING KIND!
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